Feeling Good...Because You Expect To!

There's something that I want to share with you on the topic of expectations. We know that you will attract whatever vibration you hold. So if you're feeling happy, happy finds you. And if you're feeling ornery, then ornery finds you. It's really quite fascinating, actually. And if you're ever unclear about which vibration you're holding, pay attention to the experiences and people that arrive in your life. If you find that grumpy people check you out at the supermarket...well...I think you know what your vibration is. Doh! (Yeah, you do that to yourself.)

But I started this conversation (okay, it's really a monologue, but I can totally feel you with me) on the topic of expectations. So there's also something else you should know. Ready for it? Say yes. Your experiences will match your expectations. Have you ever been speeding in your car and just known that there was a cop somewhere on the freeway catching people? And then, BAM! Out he pulls onto the freeway. And of course, if you were really worried about being pulled over, he starts chasing you down the road, right? Right!

Or how about this one: did you just know that you were going to hit horrible traffic on your way home because you're in a rush and you need to be somewhere in a hurry? And by golly, you're right!

It's true. These things happen. The universe coordinates exactly what you expect. It is impartial. It has no bias over whether your expectations are positive or negative. It just wants to deliver exactly what you expect to happen. Isn't that lovely? (Nod your head yes.)

So here's my challenge to you: next time you just know you're going to be inconvenienced by something, change your mind. Decide that something different will happen. Look, I live in Los Angeles, and I spend lots of quality time bonding with the 405 freeway. I'm sure you can tell this by my examples above. But once in a while, for some strange reason, traffic actually moves. And dang it, if it can happen once, it can happen a million times! It's kind of irritating to have to own the experiences of your life like that. I know. I lived in that thought for a little while, too. But c'mon, you know it's true. Hey, people win the lottery all the time. Why not you? Well, right now it's because you really don't expect to. The odds are terrible, so you're sure it won't happen to you. You hope it will, but you don't really expect it to. But I promise you this: when you truly expect it, when you know it in your gut, it absolutely will happen. It's law. (The Law of Attraction, of course.) It has to. Chew on that one for a bit, eh? Imagine the possibilities.

 All of a sudden you're really paying attention to your thoughts, right? And if you're like me you will go through a phase in which anytime you realize you're expecting something annoying to happen, you freak out and and think, "No, no, that's not what I meant! I know it can be awesome. Totally, yeah, no, I'm really looking forward to my work meeting with all of these lovely people in my office." But eventually you will genuinely get there...when you realize that it actually is possible to find joy in everything that you do. You won't be there all the time, and that's ok. (Whoopsie, right?) But you will have more and more moments when you realize that you can create happiness in all situations. And, well, to use my dad's famous line, "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right." You will always prove the Law of Attraction true.

So, cheers to expecting great things...and to being right!
ALL

Whoopsie!

I created this happy blog to keep me focused on all the wonderful things I have and want to invite into my life. I have transformed quite a bit spiritually in this last year, and one of my biggest excitements is staying focused on what feels good, noticing what doesn't, and stopping my momentum on the not-so-good thoughts very quickly. And I am going to let you guess what I say to myself when I am focused on those not-so-good thoughts to get me back on track. Yes! You got it! Wicked smaht. (Indulge me, I'm from Massachusetts.) I say "Whoopsie!"

"Whoopsie!" My favorite new phrase. It is the quickest way I know to forgive myself, laugh at something silly I just did, and move on. 

When I was in high school I was a total perfectionist. I graduated with a 4.979/5.0 GPA. And I think I spent the majority of my spare time replaying the experiences that deducted those .021 points away from my perfect 5.0. I used to replay the track of the mistakes I made all the time. In fact I did that so often that I would repeatedly find myself shouting out "No!" in the middle of a class or conversation that I was disengaged from. I was trying to stop myself from making the mistake again in my head. I know. Pretty sad, eh? It's ok. Happy ending. Happy blog, right?

With time I grew out of that undesirable habit. Yes! And with more time I sunk back into it. Doh! Let's be honest, if we are not aware, we can quickly slip back into a negative focus. It happens to all of us a lot of the time. And Law of Attraction states that whichever behavior we practice is exactly the one we become better at. And not only that, the momentum we create from the chosen thought will keep more thoughts and experiences like it coming right back at us. Which is great news if you're focused on happy....but what if you're not? Then you "Whoopsie!"

We all need our own "Whoopsie!" A little phrase or trigger to help you let go of the negative, have a little giggle, and move on. The "Whoopsie!" moments are wonderful for us.  They are completely necessary to help us identify what we don't want to happen. And when we know what we don't want, then we know what we do want. And once we know what we do want, we get happy and keep our attention there. And voila, our desired manifestations come as long as we are in vibrational alignment with them! 

The "Whoopsie!" moments also prevent us from getting stuck on a negative track of reliving our mistakes. The tell us, "Oops, it's okay, just move forward because it really doesn't mater. You can create something new right now. And now. And now." And consequently, we no longer attract the negative vibrations that would follow if we went down the negative path. 

So for today, I am grateful for my "Whoopsie!" moment. I started working with a beach volleyball coach, Jeff Alzina, and I time-warped back into the 19 year-old unforgiving college athlete I used to be. I wanted to play perfectly. Flawless passes, accurate sets, no room for error. Jeff is a talented coach, and I wanted to impress him. No mistakes. Clean perfect play.

 FAIL. (Shocker. Life is all about mistakes!)

One of the first things he said to me after I made a poor pass and shook my head in frustration was, "If you think you're going to play a perfect game on the beach, you can shut off that mindset and let it go right now. Or else you're done." 

"Whoopsie!"

And with that, I was able to make a comeback. I laughed at myself. I had been living on my spiritual high horse for a few weeks. "Aren't I so cool that I started a happy blog and really have this positive thinking thing down? I am going to get happy and stay in the vortex forever." I was pretty sure I had figured it out and was going to help and inspire any negative-thinking people I attracted to me (Did you catch that? We attract what we are, so why would I be attracting negative vibrations anyway?) And then... "Whoopsie!' ....for sure. I'm one of the negative thinkers too! We all are, and that's beautiful! That's what inspires us to dream about we want to manifest! So let's all keep getting back at it! Do anything you can to get happy, and then...

And cheers and appreciation to your wonderful "Whoopsies,"

ALL

The Not-So-Monkish Spiritual Mentor

Jan 7: What a wonderful day to send love & light to my adored Soul Sister, Rachel. Ain't she sweet? What a beauty! Can't you see her Ray of Sunshine? *LOVE*

I had asked the universe to send me a spiritual mentor. I was expecting a Buddhist monk. Instead I received a pile of books. They came from Rachel, who I had recently met through a volleyball group. At first it seemed strange to me that she was giving me all this 'spiritual stuff.' It was a personal subject to me, so I wasn't sure what kind of agenda this girl might have with me. True, we did have a good conversation, but it was just a conversation. And after living in Tennessee for five years, I've had my fair share of interesting 'conversations'.  So I let the books sit on my shelf for months. She felt very pure to me, but I wasn't ready to get involved just yet. And then one day the book "Ask and it is Given" jumped out at me. Changed my life. And that was just the beginning. After numerous 'random' spiritual encounters that all stemmed back to Rachel--conversations, more books, light work--you name it, I finally got it.  Oooooooh, Rachel is my spiritual mentor. You see, I expected this mentor to spout out all the 'right ways' and 'truths' of my spiritual evolvement. I was waiting to be educated by the wise one. Only, that's not how my spiritual mentor arrived.  Instead of teaching me the lessons, she has guided all of the right information into my path to reach me at exactly the right time when I am ready to hear it. I still get the pleasure of doing my own work, but she helps me arrive at it all in perfect timing.

So on Jan 7: Thanks, Raychaychay of Sunshine for always sending me exactly what I need. You are a beloved Soul Sister, spiritual mentor and friend. I love the light we share, and I look forward to even more fun adventures together!

Cheers, hugs & ladybugs,

ALL

Jessica's "Daily Affirmation"

My dad was a salesman, and I learned from him how to be an eternal optimist.

"Hey Vic, how are you?"
                                                   "I'm terrrrrrrific!"

You can feel it in his presence, can't you?

He was a jolly gent. A gentle giant. And a wonderful daddy. And he helped me program myself to have the best life ever.

I have spent the last few years getting back to the wisdom that he imparted on me before I even hit double digits. I couldn't have been 8 or 9 when he first taught me how to do self affirmations. As a traveling salesman, he had tons of sales tapes in his car, and they were always playing (that is, if Neil Diamond was taking a break). One day my dad was 'feelin it,' and he had me join in.

"Amy, pull down your mirror, and look deep into your own eyes. Repeat after me. I LIKE myself."

"Okay, Daddy. I LIKE myself."

"That's good. Do it again. I LIKE myself. I like myself. I LIKE myself."

And I followed suit. "I LIKE myself. I like myself. I LIKE myself." And I burst into giggles.

"See Amy, you can't help but feel happy when you know how much you like yourself."

And he was right. I'll never forget it. He explained to me how important it was to love myself. That however I felt about myself is exactly how everyone else would feel about me. That I could be anything I wanted to be just by saying it. Period. My dad was very specific about the words he used to describe me, and he made sure I was just as careful to pick the right words about myself, too. He knew that those words following my use of the word "I" would write the story of my life, present and future. He instilled in me a belief that I could have or be anything, and that all I had to do was feel good about it. What a gift.

So for Jan 6: My appreciation is for affirmations. For the ones my father taught me, for the ones I made on my own. And for the affirmation below, of Jessica. A little girl who reminds me of me, completely and totally in love with and absorbed in her life.

Cheers & love to yourself. We LIKE ourselves!
ALL

Abraham Hicks - "Get Happy"

Listen up, y'all! GET HAPPY!! A fun little ditty for your Friday night!

"That's what getting happy is. It's making peace with where you are...all you gotta do is find a reason to feel good." -Abraham Hicks

Much love, fun & cheer,

ALL

Get Happy and Start a Blog

I said to my husband last night, "J, sometimes I am just so happy that I don't know what to do with myself!" He responded, "Start a blog." What a coincidence! (Not really.) I had already started this one a few hours before our conversation. And that, my friends, is exactly why I'm writing this. I want to share with you the incredible journey of purposeful creation, and case and point: I am so good at attracting exactly what is right for me...I put the happy blog in the vortex without even realizing it!

I'm in the business of feeling good...of attracting what I want into my life. And I do that when I "Get Happy and Then..." So this blog is dedicated to all of the ways I get happy, and I hope it inspires you to find yours. And wouldn't it be fun if we manifest exactly what we want at exactly the right time just because we are so focused on feeling good? I think so too!

I came across this video today about how to 'get yer happy on' and find appreciation for something wonderful in your life every single day of the year. Grateful365. Perfect! A fun way to celebrate your life, and if it speaks to you, I encourage you to do the same. 

So today's post is about catching up on the few things that have made me oh-so-happy already in 2014!

Jan 1: So incredibly appreciative of my husband, who played along with my wedding dress-up game so I could end the year as his bride, and he as my handsome groom. What an unforgettable and Happy New Year's celebration!

Jan 2: A shout out to my delicious bed that gives me the warmest and most welcoming hug every single night. It is like laying amongst the clouds and floating into my dreams. 





Jan 3: Beautiful hydrangeas, basking in the sun. I feel just like them, soaking in the yummy goodness from the sky, completely and totally relaxed in a state of allowance. And we both get little drinks of water to keep us refreshed. Such a lovely, lovely day.

So I hope you continue along with me, and eventually (or immediately) join me in creating and manifesting everything you have ever wanted in your life! It's such a neat game of purposeful creation, and it all starts with getting happy. So that's all you've got to do...find ANYTHING that brings a smile to your face and a warm fuzzy feeling in your heart, and focus on that. Feel good, feel happy, and then....you just wait and see...your new world awaits you. 

Cheers!
ALL